Today, out of the blue, without me saying a word to them, somebody told me to ‘take it easy, sleep when you can, take your time and everything will slot into place’.
What a nice thing to say!
Well no, not really. See everything already is in place. Life is pretty damn perfect. Yes, Iris wakes me up at night to feed her and trying to leave the house can be a pain in the arse. But I’m not stressed and I’m not unhappy. I am not having a hard time.
Why do people keep assuming I’m fed up?
Or worse, sad. I’m not sad. I know lots of people do feel down after having a baby and often they don’t or can’t reach out for help. But I don’t think that’s a good enough reason to assume that all new mothers are miserable, dissatisfied with their new role and stressed out. Having a new baby is a HAPPY THING.
I’ve always valued mothers. Because of the work I’ve always done I guess. But generally I’d say it’s an undervalued role. People don’t see being a stay at home mum as a worthwhile thing to do. For some mums it’s not right and they do want to return to work. Good for them. But please don’t feel sorry for the rest of us! I’m only 8 weeks into this parenting business and already I’m sick of people feeling sorry for me.
Also, while we’re on the subject, enough with advice, ok? I probably will need advice at some point and I’ll ask. I’ll then be grateful for the advice I receive and I will say thank you. In the meantime things are good, it’s all going well and I’ve got it under control. It isn’t broke, so stop telling me to fix it. Or how to fix it.